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Adoption I – A Barren Womb….



The pain of infertility is so, so deep. If you are a woman and reading this or you if you are man reading this there is no need to introduce you to the childhood of a woman.  It consists of dolls, dolls and more dolls.  Holding them, stroking their hair, feeding them, bathing them, strolling around the house with them and putting them to sleep is what every girl child does to the doll instictively.
All of our lives, we dream of being mothers and of nuturing and raising children.  When days turn into months, months into years and when that dream does not come true, it so painful.  Every other good thing that we have going for us seems unworthy.  Being barren as it is called is almost like telling a woman you are not fit enought to be called a woman.
The factors that cause a woman to be barren are endless.  Some times you can pin point the exact reason and sometimes the healthiest people can’t seem to conceive.   In a country like leave alone the emotional distress caused by infertility,  it is almost a social stigma not to be able to bear your husband’s children because they are belived to be those who will sustain the parents in their old age.  A barren women often sees her husband leave her for another wife.   They are often cut out of family inheritances, become social outcasts and in extreme cases may even be pushed to commit suicide.
As you read this post know that I too am one among you who does not have a child.  If you believe in God you will also know that he has a plan for your life…let those words comfort you.  When I got married and things were tough I had a prayer in my kitchen.  It was near the kettle so that when I made tea each morning I could read it aloud.  It was the only thing that kept me going each day.   You can see it in the picture below.
  Adoption I - A Barren Womb+barren womb no child
Today,  I have a different prayer that I say when I feel the maternity pang.  Sometimes all that comes out are tears and I cannot even frame one single line of prayer in my mind.  It is then that I read this aloud.   I got it online and it’s been a constant comfort.  I would like to share it with those of you, in a similar situation.

“Lord, help me to know that You are enough.

 Take my eyes off of myself.  Take my eyes off of the child I desire.

Help me to delight myself in You.

Mold the desires of my heart to be in line with Your will.

I don’t want to need to be a mother more than I need to be your humble, obedient child.

 I don’t want, wanting to have a baby to be a stumbling block between You and me anymore.

Lord, I want to give this desire, this drive, this ache up to You.

 

Help me not to snatch it back as I so often do with the burdens I place in Your hands.

Help me to be truly content with Your will and Your timing.

Lord, You know that I still desire a baby – someone to mold, teach, train, shape, guide, and help to grow in You.

But until the day You give me that joyous blessing, help me to grow in You.

 

Lord, if adoption is the path You would have us take, prepare our hearts, and prepare the child who will share our home.

If adoption is not Your will for our lives, keep me from pushing ahead of Your plan.

Help me to stay submitted to my husband’s will, and to Your will.

If we are headed in the wrong direction, change our hearts.

Thank You for lifting my burden. Help me to keep You first!

Let me seek Your face daily, and let me know that You are enough!

You are enough! “

 

God Bless!!

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Comments

  1. this is so touching.. i just wish everyone who can do it adopts and makes a kids dreams come true. .so many babies are abandoned every year..

  2. Shally God has indeed a plan for you! Count your blessings every day and that will make you smile 🙂

  3. God truly has a plan for all of Us.! May lord God be with u always!

    i am sure he wants u to bring happiness and peace to this world and since u r a woman full of love and kindness, he probably wants a needy child to be ur Mother.. There r sooo many orphans around the streets, orphanages and places that v don even know exist. But ppl like U help this planet makes a better place to live in!

    Do not lose faith.. Believe, pray and LOVE! God is with u always and simply Follow ur bliss!

    May goodness always give u good health, happiness, love and peace!

    Amen! 🙂

  4. I hav tears in my eyes reading this..But in all of this I can see how strong u r and I hope all of us learn from u regardless of whether we do or don’t hav kids…we’ve had alot of hopeless situations and trying to conceive is one of them…but it’s more impt to look beyond what we don’t have and look at options like adoption. There r so many kids out there who need parents,love, guidance…. I pray ur journey gets better n better… 🙂

    • I so agree with it.Why not give someone a home.We have much more respect for ladies like Sushmita sen than any one else.

      • True…some think adoption is a last resort and borne out of desperation..i personally feel adoption is somethin that only really brave people can do..it takes guts and a strong mind..

  5. That’s a beautiful prayer Shally. I sincerely hope that God eases your journey into parenthood. Here I’d like to share my most fav quote wich gets me thru life’s unwarranted surprises:
    “When God takes away something from you, He’s not punishing you. He’s merely emptying your hand to receive something better”
    May the Good Lord be with u always 🙂

  6. This is a really touching post. May god be with you:)

  7. AMEN!!!

    Very touching post & an apt prayer to start the day with.. excited about this series..

    Great job Shally for the courage & will to spread this social message.. thanku Ana… yet another dimension to our dear blog…

    After all arent we woman wholesome ourselves.. !!! 🙂

  8. Icequeen81 says:

    nice prayer

  9. Well , I know one day you will be a mom..Like you said god always has a plan.

    I just had to tell you about my neighbor in India. This couple has been trying to conceive for years and years , but no luck. The poor lady underwent numerous IVF procedures due to stress from her in laws but nothing was successful. And the In-laws and husband were against adoption. She had almost given up on everything when one fine day she conceived naturally! She couldnt believe it for months together. Mind you she is over 40 yrs of age. But , blessings can happen at any time and it will happen to you too. Am sure good things will happen to you soon!

  10. Help me to be truly content with Your will and Your timing…

    I believe no one is an Orphan.. God’s wid evry1.. n today i seriously feel like writing.. Melody, its been my secret desire to adopt a baby and be a single mother 😀

    God bless u wid loadza love n smiles!!:)

  11. Oh!! I never realized how profound the feeling is…I agree we are trained to mother people and we easily adapt to the role. It is always difficult to accept & live with one’s weakness…but hats off to you!! I admire your approach!! Looking forward to living with you, the journey of becoming a mother 🙂

  12. Ana…kudos to you for this kicking off this awesome series…I think 1/2 of us identify with it here. And the other 1/2 is trying to identify with it…with her words I think it’s a cake walk 😀

    :yes: :yes:

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