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Co-sleeping – Is it a wise decision?

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In a country like India, parents cannot imagine their infant child in another bed other than theirs.  It’s unimaginable.  It is considered taboo to separate the child and the extended family can raise an unwanted hue and cry over the entire issue.

Some of the reasons why Indian parents keep their child in their beds is as follows:

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  • It is part of the Indian way of doing things.
  • Parents feel believe it helps their baby feel safe and secure when the child is near them and that the child likes the close bodily contact.
  • Mothers have this satisfied feeling and believe it’s good for their relationship with their baby.
  • The next reason would be because they find it more practical to breast feed the child during the night.
  • Thins are easier for a nursing mother to get her sleep cycle in sync with her baby’s
  • For many, the expense of a crib and lack of space in small flats, forces parents to keep the child in their bed.

The decision to do so is ultimately that of the parents and if co-sleeping is what they opt for then the most important thing is that bed-sharing is done safely and with adequate wisdom.

  • Do not smoke in the bedroom.
  • Do not take drugs, alcohol or any type of sedative medication that causes heavy sleep
  • It’s never advisable to share a bed with your baby if you smoke or take drugs.
  • Do not keep your baby at the edge of the bed.  Make sure there is enough padding around the child that will prevent him/her from falling off the bed
  • You infant could roll and get trapped or wedged between a mattress and headboard, wall, or any other bedroom furniture.
  • You could suffocate or strangle the child by mistake in your sleep.
  • Do not fight in while in the bedroom.  It is traumatising for the baby to hear those hateful voices.
  • Older children also sleeping in the same bed could roll over the infant causing serious damage
  • Keep your pets of the bed at least during the child’s infancy.
  • Strangulation in a bed frame like one with holes or one that has rods and gaps is likely cause it will allow the infants body part to pass through but then trapping the child during removal

In addition to the  safety risks of  sharing a bed with a baby, parents also get disturbed and cannot have a good night’s rest.  The working parents will really suffer due to this arrangement.  Another problems one can foresee is a child getting used to the parent being in the bed with him/her causing the child to wait till the parent returns disrupting the schedule for everyone.

In the end whether you decide to get a crib or keep your child in your bed it is a personal decision.   Do weigh the pros and cons and talk to your child’s doctor about the risks, possible personal benefits and your family’s preferred arrangements.

What are your thoughts about Co Sleeping?

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Comments

  1. This is actually quite dicey…in my Casey I prefer co sleeping for now just because of the convenience. Even tho I don’t breastfeed it’s more convenient to have her next t me. Otherwise it a chore to get up when she cries for her feed, make her bottle and carry her out, then wait fr her t fall asleep again n plonk her back in…it’s so much easier in the same bed. But it’s def difficult too..my hubs sleeps so rigidly in fear of smashing her… 😛

  2. when i was a child, i co- slept with my parents till i was 6 yrs of age….and still i used to fear at night while sleeping alone…in my daughter’s case i think i won’t shift her to a single bed very soon…

  3. True prer…i slept wid my parents till i was 4 r 5 n drn aftr that also i had my own bed but in d same room..fr d longest time id fall off d bed so my parents had t be doubly vigilant..hihi..

  4. Navneet Thethi says:

    We have a 2bed room flat, but stil my 8yr old son sleeps with us, i wont part him till my 2nd baby arrives. Doing this i feel secured

  5. My kiddo has a wierd habit of putting both her hands around my both cheeks and then sleep…I quite enjoyed this affection earlier but now it has started taking toll on the quality of my sleep.secondly co sleeping doesn’t leave u enough space to sleep peacefully…I m planning to shift her to single bed but in our room only after she turns two

    • Oh my!i can c how that habit can b bothersome…Pravi developed a habit of sleeping on my chest in her 2nd month..I let it continue till d 4th month but then my lower tummy started hurting like crazy..it took a week of crying n wailing but touchwood now she sleeps between us..rolling all around 😛

      • Hahaha!! My son does the same thing!! He puts his hands on both my cheeks and sleeps. My quality of sleep is unaffected because I have developed this unique ability to sleep like a log in any position and any space after my kid was born, but the quality of my skin does get affected because no matter how many times I wash his hands, he manages to get them dirty! :'( I still absolutely enjoy this affection though!! 🙂 And yes my son though loved sleeping on my chest doesn’t do it anymore, unless he is very sick and feverish. And at that time, I dont have the heart to refuse him.

  6. i prefer co- sleeping since right now i am breast feeding my baby who is not even 3 months old. i slept with my parents till i was 6-7 years of age, so i am all for it. however i do feel it will be a space constraint as he grows bigger and rolls around. planning to buy him a crib when he is 6-7 months and keep the crib in our room. i really agree about having to sleep carefully and keeping a night lamp in the room. i am someone who loves to sleep in complete darkness and the lamp took a lot of effort and getting used to.

  7. Co-sleeping is good until the breastfeeding phase. We got a baby crib when ananya turned one. The crib has one side which can be removed/ lowered. So we removed that side and put the bed b/w our bed and wall so that she is covered on all sides if you get what I mean. B/w her bed and ours is the body pillow that we got while I was pregnant. So now we still have our sleeping spaces , but we’re together in the same room. I love this arrangement. Thankfully she does not roll over the body pillow and come into our bed space. 🙂

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